Start dating after being widowed
The Gerontologist of The Oxford Journals states that, “widowhood is associated with income inadequacy, which is associated with lower automobile use, lower social participation, and higher loneliness and anxiety”.
Quite often, losing a spouse means losing a social circle as well.
When journalist Becky Aikman was widowed in her 40s, she felt unmoored.
But she couldn’t find the kind of help that she needed, so she dug into the data and eventually created her own unique support system.
Just like others that I’ve dated, I expected that she’d be cute – and that I’d be respectful; that she’d be interesting – and that I’d be conversational; that she’d exhibit refinement – and that I’d exhibit chivalry.
And we share several common fundamental passions that have cemented our relationship including a passion for our faith and music. It was to be an innocent date; with innocent conversation.
The tragic loss of a husband or wife can never truly be comprehended by an outsider, but many researchers have discovered a variety of statistics that may allow us to be a little more understanding of the nature of widowhood.
According to the US Census, nearly “13% of men and 40% of women aged 65 and older are widows.” While the psychological effects of widowhood cannot be generalized into one category and vary depending on the individual, the social consequences are much more clear.
I have fallen in love with ‘Louise’, and have proposed to her, the woman of my dreams! I expected that if all went well, I’d probably ask her for a 2nd, and perhaps a 3rd date; but most likely, that would be the extent of our interest.
A large percentage of our users on Stitch are widows or widowers.
We are constantly touched by their stories and think it is incredible that they are taking steps to seek companionship after such a terrible loss.
About a year after Mort’s death, Mary felt ready to start taking baby steps to move on and meet new people.
“Mort had been a hunter and had promised to teach me how to shoot,“ she says, “but we never got around to it.” When a shooting range, started by two former SEALS, opened near her home, Mary decided to learn what she had missed with husband.Not surprisingly, a study at Michigan State University discovered that people 65 and older who used the Internet to stay in touch with friends had a more than 30 percent reduction rate of depression symptoms.